Megváltoztatni vagy elfogadni? Konverziós és affirmatív terápiák összehasonlító elemzése

Abstract

Opinions of homosexuality divide the different segments of the society, and of the researchers. The divisive attitudes and opinions appear in the narrower milieu, family, friends as well. During the therapy one can face questions from the individuals and parents like: : „Why this exactly happens to me?" „How could people accept me?'' „Why am I different than the others?" „What does a person make to become a homosexual?” „What mischief have I done , that this can happen to my child?" „How can I accept her/him the way she/he is?” Contradictions, or the way that we make this subject a taboo, reinforce the tendency of searching reasons, explanations, answers.

This paper presents and summarizes the researches focusing on possible diverse causes of homosexuality and also presents different therapeutic methods with homosexuals – conversive, reparative method, and affirmative-based method – trying to resolve the contradictions, and clarify the basic concepts. The awareness and the discernment help us to understand and accept. In this study I try to find the answers of the following questions: „What tools can help us in understanding?" „Why is understanding and acceptance more important than try to change?" "What can help the attitude of the parents to their children?" "If a parent chooses a therapeutic process, how can we help the therapeutists, if they face to condemnation and exclusion of the family, or of the environment?”